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Death Of Shame, Death of Nobility

June 17, 2010


Today I’d like to take on a topic that is or at least should be at the top of questing minds.

As men or women, what is it that makes us men or women? For there is no doubt that our first identity in this world is our sexual identity. It’s a Boy! It’s a Girl! Right?

Before name, family, city, nationality, we are first masculine or feminine.

A clear trend to be paid attention to though, is that in this age of labels, this most critical label and all that should go with it, is receding, receding.

Who learns anymore what it really means to be a man or a woman? And who is the teacher for this key piece of knowledge? In the oldest, original and organic sense of the word? Parents? Schools? Peers? Elders? Books? Movies?

Where does a child, born into today’s world, or growing up in it, turn for his or her understanding of their most fundamental beingness, their masculinity or femininity? And where are those all important rites of passage, which since times immemorial, marked the phase changes of boys to men and girls to women? Graduation ceremonies? Please!

And this great death of polarity, what I like to call the bonfire of the identities has been happening over centuries now, generations and generations.  How then, the blind lead the blind?

Strong words indeed, but there is a lot more.

In keeping with the Know they “self” theme started earlier and the body’s central-ness to all knowledge worth possessing, if masculinity or femininity are the core definers of the self, then would not or should not their study be the prime, first objective of our education/training/schooling?

Before counting, before mathematics and language, first seed of knowledge is what is going to define me in the world I will inhabit?

Our lives as they play out today have banished this core differentiator and definer into the background, with mother cultures constant chatter of “Equality, you are all equal, men women, girl boy, all equal”! It’s been one of her worst lies and has damned us into this place from where evolution itself is completely hamstrung! The feminine is con-cave and the masculine is con-vex. How can two such polarities be Equal? Like saying negative and positive are equal.

Can that be? Only in the realm of our culture befuddled minds.

Evolution hamstrung? You see, creation happens as a result of polarity. Growth happens as a result of polarity.

Here is the most obvious example of what I am trying to say.

Two women coming together cannot produce a child. There is no organic polarity between them. It takes the coming together of a man and a woman to create.

So, all creativity too is born of polarity. I hope you can see that the point is irrefutable. Regardless of all the aculturation and programming, nothing can take this core, common sense idea away.

So, as men have become less masculine and women have become less feminine, birth rates should drop, right? Lack of polarity leads to lack of productivity.

I suggest a peek at birth rates in countries where the “feminist” movement won it’s biggest victories (Europe, US, Australia) and one stark fact leaps out, stagnant or negative birth-rates.

Meanwhile in cultures, considered more traditional, birth rates have remained more or less constant. Please do the research.

Hmmmmmmmm……… tricky proposition eh? Dangerous almost.

What does this have to do with Shame and Nobility?

In my analysis, these were the two primordial qualities that organically defined the feminine and the masculine, since time immemorial.

You see, ultimately, the core draw, the famous “opposites attract” of mating was for the production of off-spring.  Gene-pool propagation. It’s fall to it’s current , ridiculous form is recent and can be completely discounted in the face of a few million years of history. Yet, even in it’s current, completely bastardized form, the core drivers have not changed, as all agony aunts and psychologists will tell you. Unfortunately, we’ve gone from being creation driven to recreation driven. Quite a fall. Of divine proportions, yes?

And till very recent history, the womb of the feminine was something sacred. It was a hidden, hard to access place. It was after all, the place where the magic of creation happened. It was not something to be bandied about, flashed, shown in public. Far from it. The female was sacred for her womb first and was the first and fiercest protector of it.

And yet, paradoxically, this dark yin was also the energy behind all movement. Of course she was, for only from movement (vibration) can you get manifestation, birth.

The bright yang, male on the other hand was inert. All potential.

When we were still creatures of our bodies, the dormant male responded to the vibration of the active yin, gaining “standing” potential, which was then vibrated in the darkness, producing Cold, milky light to meet with Fire-y darkness and enable creation.

Thus the male was noble.

Noble. The word’s oldest definition is inert. A startling parallel, gold, sun, fire. Gold is the prime noble metal. Inert, will not interact with any other metal.

This is the nobility of the masculine that is dead. Far from inert, the modern day man, totally a creature of the mind, is a reactive puppet.

And the organic shame (hidden, deep, buried, to be sought) of the feminine is dead too.

You need not look too far nowadays to see the feminine displayed. Any number of doorways to the heart of the sacred darkness are available on display. The jade gate is wide open (literally and metaphorically). Is it any surprise then that women really don’t feel so feminine anymore?

And the noble male is on fire, told since childhood what it means to be a man (fight, acquire, grasp, win) and so is reacting with anything and everything. Both un-noble and ig-noble come to mind.

And as we have moved farther away from our bodies and live ever more  in our minds, these two deaths are ever more pronounced. Why Viagra otherwise? No polarity left, except in some pornography driven recess of our mind.

In this mental age, differences are bad, homogeneity is good.

Mind you, I am speaking in broad strokes (hashed metaphor, but I like it’s sound), but can the death of shame and the death of nobility be denied?

This great melding of the sexes pre-sages the end of humanity as we know it.

Sure, IVF will ensure people will keep having babies, but really, what a tragedy.

The great bonfire of the identities rages before us and my contention is that you do not have to dive in. Finding your core masculine or feminine gives you the such a strong inner standing. The feeling is deeply empowering. Knowing thy “self” in the clear light of your prime quality is a thing of power, of great force.

In a way no shameless or ignoble display, much applauded by present society, can be.

A big topic to try and fit in one post, so I will take this up again, soon. It is of vital importance. The world that is upon us needs some real men and women to rise up. Everyone else is rushing into the bonfire in high-heeled shoes, waxed skins, lipstick…………metro-sexually perfect!

Have the courage to be a man. Be a woman.


24 Comments leave one →
  1. June 18, 2010 5:05 pm

    Awesome article. Count me in as a fan.

    • June 19, 2010 4:34 am

      Greetings svs, glad it struck a chord. Pass it around, more people need to live fully, boldly, be them-selves.

  2. June 20, 2010 11:19 am

    Greetings Chris, are you saying that this current no-shame, ignoble world we are living is somehow better? Or that there is organic shame and noble men all around? I for one cannot see them. All I see is lost people.
    I’m not looking at the past through rose culoured glasses at all. In fact, no specific period is mentioned in my post. Just plunging birth rates in Europe/west and the concurrent success of the feminist movement.
    If you have a genuine point to make, instead of a knee-jerk rejection, I look forward to your response. We need a healthy dialouge around this topic.

  3. June 21, 2010 3:31 am

    Beautiful stuff brother anadianant. My feelings exactly. Exactly! But you neglected to go into the reasons why such extreme homogeneity exists. What is the origin, and the destination.

    • June 21, 2010 3:45 am

      Glad to find resonance my friend. Nice name by the way. 1.
      And I do intend to delve further, as the blog unfolds. These are touchy topics, I want many people to stay with the unfolding narrative or even better, look around, look within and think for themselves.

  4. Siriusb permalink
    June 22, 2010 7:54 am

    Well – I was interested. Until you started down the road on inequality. Shame on you for setting back this discussion. Back to the same old-same old. Convex-concave- BS. The falling birth rate is the best thing to happen to this poor old world in centuries. We are so far past carrying capacity on the planet already – the die-off will be horrendous. The more we can educate and free women to be EQUAL to men and to control their birthing activity, the more of a chance we give all of man and woman kind. The truly superior minds and hearts of the past 40 years have been those who refused to add to the population density – so that others could survive. Smart people are born all the time. even from dumb people! You don’t need to overbreed the smart ones to get more smart ones. How stupid. Smacks of overt racism/nationalism/jingoism – whatever.
    I had hoped for a place here that combined real awareness of what the Eaarth faces right now and an awareness of the true spiritual nature underlying it all. And a way to overcome/deal with rage and sadness and grief over the spoiling of the Oceans – possibly an extinction-level event. I liked some of what I read of past entries but I will never stay in a conversation where the basic equality of all living things is still in question or debate.
    -A Proud Feminist

    • June 22, 2010 4:33 pm

      Greetings Siriusb,

      In my world, all viewpoints are completely valid. Your’s is too, thought it does not agree with mine. And as yours surely is, my own view has been in-formed with intense interaction with the feminine.
      We perhaps understand the word Equal differently. We also perhaps understand the words masculine and feminine differently. We perhaps understand many words differently, given that we clearly come from different cultures.
      From my perspective, you read what I’ve written completely differently from the essence of what I was trying to convey writing it.
      Of course you are free to return or stay away, but if you choose to respond, please refrain from labeling me, one way or the other. The dialouge can and should happen without resorting to calling me or my views stupid or nationalistic or jingoistic. 10 other posts here would completely refute that judgement.

      And just as an aside, pride is a hair’s breadth away from vanity and creates blinders.

      Wishing you well,


  5. JUDE permalink
    November 3, 2010 1:24 am

    Anadianant: As you’ve stated elsewhere, ‘some are loathe to accept any freely given advice’. Communication – those posts twisting an important subject into today’s usual labeling, and attacking a person’s view regretfully cuts off all honest debate/discourse/debate. In a world of sound bites/talking points (i.e. the shallow tripe that passes for political discourse!).

    Today – no matter the subject – the person seen as having an ‘opposing’ thought is immediately attacked as ‘other’ – outside of ‘group think’/ therefore conspiratorial – racist – biased – or homophobic (convenient nonsensical jingoism ending ration discourse). I do not aspire to equality with men/ but rather seeing sacredness and nobility complimenting one another birthing the majestic. The greatest calling is motherhood and the nurturing of children. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to trace the wrecking of the family unit and the outcome. And today?

    Children dropped off at child care centers to be raised by strangers! I cannot imagine not experiencing walks in the woods (with my little ones) listening to the talking of the trees, discovering the Indian Mounds, splashing in the creek, discovering magic stones, collecting buckets of clay to make artistic lumps that needed baked & painted, collecting/pressing leaves – collecting food and clothing for the needy – story time etc. Viagra who would have imagined! The grace, beauty of womanhood vulgarized in violent video games/ TV shows – breast implants, plastic surgery – et al. Years ago (small town in the mountains) a group came to town to introduce feminism. I went to this meeting with documentation I’d gathered.

    They went on about equality with men – abortion as a right etc. I raised my hand and asked, “What of your plans to do away with families by the year 2000, introducing witchcraft etc”. The leader was appalled that anybody would question the shackles being removed from womanhood. She replied “There is always an extremist few in every group”. I showed her the clippings of bare breasted women – the quotes were from leadership. How regretful that people limit themselves as “I’m the democrat – republican – feminist – a conservative – liberal – Catholic – Fundamentalist / etc.” Rigidity = unteachable.

    Lost in groupthink there is no finding your core masculine or feminine core – you are what the GROUP has created as your identity. If you notice, most people in their rabid defense of their ideologies, are merely mouthing the group’s mantra/ mission statement etc. The Delphi technique is quite popular from school board meetings – to town leadership meetings – various activist movements etc. People are totally unaware as to how they are being manipulated into a (consensus) preconceived outcome. There are NO original thoughts/ ideas – visions permitted.

    A good example is the person who sees grave abuses/ wrongs/ corruption or criminality at work. Rare are those who (knowing thy self) despite the cost, must speak forth. I told my sons/ It is easy to profess how honest – upstanding you; are observing wrong from the sidelines and professing that you would never witness such abuses without speaking forth. It’s another thing when it’s your job – paycheck or life!

    It is then that you find out if you are who you believe yourself to be ———–that takes “knowing thyself” / which is not learned in the moment but has been cultivated, not in the movement or group, but alone or hey maybe talking with the trees. Thank you Anadianant for addressing an issue that has become stridently unpopular. The GROUP does not appreciate these singular observations.

    • November 3, 2010 3:50 am

      Jude, thank you for taking the time to write such a resonant, deeply felt comment.
      If you don’t mind, I’ll post it on the front soon?
      All I’ll say for now.

  6. molecule permalink
    November 26, 2010 4:08 am

    the only thing that the culture of free sex ever for humanity did was make cowards out of boys who would otherwise have grown up to become men

    the true wealth of a nation cannot be measured in $$, or in tons of steel and barrels of oil. it can only be measured in the forthright strength, courage and righteousness of men, and in the tenderness, reflective intelligence and chastity of women, and in the innocence of their children and their shared love for disovery and beauty. without consciousness, we have nothing.

    what is chastity? chastity is the absense of sexual trauma. women have never been so afraid, and so alone, their real identity so sexually traumatized, as they are today. and where are the men? for every young pornstar, standing naked and obedient before a camera, one asks, where is her father, … her brother, … her boyfriend, … her husband? her unprotected chastity and indignation? women have never been so alone and so afraid and so traumatized as they are today …

    all consciousness comes into this world through the purest place in the Universe, which is the top part of a woman’s uterus, where the placenta attaches. before cell division of the body begins, the fertilized egg and the uterus together build a placenta. it is an insult to the chastity of a woman to think of her placenta or afterbirth as a biohazard … just an example of how far off grack we have drifted unawares. all consciousness comes into this world through a uterus. and in the absence of chantity, what happens to the process of the birth of consciousness?

    • November 26, 2010 4:17 am

      Well said Molecule.
      It is not for nothing that in times not so distant past, the entrance to the woman’s uterus, was known as Heaven’s gate. In this fractal world, it represents the mystery of mysteries, creation.
      And it was fiercely guarded against debasement, which is what we see today. The debasement of the feminine and of course it’s natural corollary, the debasement of the masculine.

  7. James permalink
    November 26, 2010 2:55 pm

    I wish this article could be read by every man and woman in the world. I for one would not even consider ANY kind of relationship with a feminist. Feminism in my opinion is the most destructive movement in history. Please keep up your awesome work.

    • November 26, 2010 5:08 pm

      Glad it struck a chord James.
      Feel free to pass on to as many men and women as you know? 🙂

  8. chaidrinkingfool permalink
    November 29, 2010 7:00 pm

    I disagree that our primary identity is as woman or as man.

    Since, regardless of our sex, we cannot (read that very literally, as in, “it is not biologically possible to”) reproduce with other species, our primary identity is as human.

    The womb, being internal–it’s another term for the uterus, which is an internal organ–cannot be flashed or shown to the public.

    And while it is nice to think of men protecting women, every man who has harassed (I am understating the case here in some cases) me in various ways was indeed someone’s son, sometimes someone’s brother, and sometimes someone’s father. One time, at least, it was someone’s (someone else’s) husband.

    • November 29, 2010 7:10 pm

      Chai, some of your points are well taken, but the truth is that in this world, sex is the next “primary” identity.
      And a blinders off look at the world would show that it is based on duality, without which nothing would be.
      My point is first and foremost that it (our identity as male or female) needs to finds it’s fullest expression, without which all else that follows is based on a false premise/foundation.
      And the last 100 years have been an aberration, a de-evolution for both sexes, the bonfire of identities.
      Metrosexual? Flexisexual? Not good.

  9. thompson permalink
    January 18, 2011 9:14 pm

    Your words are strangely energizing. Polarity or conflict is indeed the dynamic core of creation, though I tend for comfort and peace to turn my attention to the ultimate unity at the heart of it all.

    I love your thoughts on primordial sexuality – ever pick up CS Lewis’ “Perelandra”? It’s the second in a brilliant sci-fi trilogy which I’ll refrain from spoiling with my own superfluous description.

    • January 19, 2011 5:31 am

      “strangely energizing”, I’ll take that as high praise thompson. 🙂

      Will look up Perelandra. india is usually short on classics like that (it’s all about best-sellers here). Only fiction I read now-a-days is highly recommended fiction. Thanks for writing in.

  10. July 21, 2011 7:56 am

    Hello my Friend!

    Thank you for this very well written, thoughtful communication, on the expression of sexuality. To really understand “Human sexuality”, one must see the influence of appetite (sexual sense) derived from trend, sensation and self centred thought, which by its very nature makes it mechanical.

    Some say that the seat of higher emotional centre, rests eventually in the sexual centre when the two become one, over riding external stimuli. Then and only then can one truly know “Nirvana”


  11. July 20, 2012 7:14 pm

    I’ve been having somewhat similar thoughts for a while, sparked by reading about the ancient Mother Goddess cultures that preceded the current patriarchy. It got me thinking, why is it that people have to conceive of God as either male or female? Surely God is both (but even greater than the sum)? isn’t this why the sexual act was originally so sacred, so steeped in ritual?

    The term ‘equality’ is being used in a misleading sense these days, as you’ve pointed out here. The way in which I understand it is that males and females are as important and as vital to life, precisely because of the differences. However, our technolpolistic culture cannot cope with (or simply doesn’t tolerate) variation and differences.

    There is one question, though, the birth rate thing. I think it’s axiomatic that the human race can’t keep expanding at the rate it has done so. I’m struggling to articulate any thoughts to follow that statement, though, probably because I’m trying to think of an answer.

    And there is no answer, but there is a way.

  12. BrutalTruth permalink
    November 24, 2012 3:26 pm

    Lots of interesting thoughts by both the author and commenters. As the author states that feminism has caused lower birthrates. Not through the resulting promiscuity, but through the evilness of narcissism which ultimately manifests itself as abortion. I find it ironic, those that rationalize lower population as good, will easily kill another, but will not sacrifice themselves for the benefit of that belief, thus fulfilling the very definition of their evilness.

    • November 25, 2012 5:09 am

      Well said BrutalT.

      Sourced from else-where…quite a tell:

      In the 8th to 6th century BCE, the Israelites sacrificed first-born children in the Valley of
      Hinnom. Made to renew the sun fire; it was also popular in Carthage; where once, when
      they were under siege from the Sicilians, they did a sacrifice of 200 of their best children.
      (Prior to naming themselves Carthaginians, these people were called Phoenicians.)
      Moloch was Nimrod, was Baal, Ninus, Tammuz, Zoroaster, etc. The fire ceremonies are
      the same.
      Moloch was represented as a huge bronze statue with the head of a bull. The statue was
      hollow and a fire built inside until it was a glowing red, renewing the sun fire. Children
      were placed on the outstretched hands of the statue and by some mechanism; the arms
      were raised to the mouth. Making it appear as if Moloch was eating and the child
      dropped inside to be burned as a holocaust. (Holocaust means: burnt offering.)
      Diodorus Siculus: “There was a bronze statue of Chronos, with his hands palms
      upwards and inclined toward the ground, so that the child put on them rolled down in a
      pit full of fire.”
      Plutarch wrote in Superstitiones 171: …the whole area before the statue was filled with
      a loud noise of flutes and drums so that the cries of wailing should not reach the ears of
      the people. (Screams of agony would be a better description)
      These people incinerated their own children like we do our trash. Imagine what they
      would do to you. And what a convenient way to get rid of an unwanted childbirth.
      Isn’t it funny how they have us talked into aborting the innocents and disposing of the
      remains like trash? There’s your baby in a fresh garbage bag, ready for the incinerator
      or the science lab for tissue research.
      Someone else had another interesting thought. He said, “Do you realize most abortions
      are the first baby for the female; therefore, it’s a sacrifice of the first-born child?”
      That kind of made me step back like i was hit right between the eyes.
      It’s no different, no different than giving it to Moloch, except, there’s no ceremony.
      Do you see the trick there? Now it’s just a clinical procedure.
      Abortion is a blood sacrifice. The clinics symbolize the temples, the doctors are the
      priests, and the medical table is an altar. The whole thing becomes a ritualized sacrifice.

  13. Coretta permalink
    July 22, 2015 8:13 am

    I was raised in the nucleus of the feminist movement – born 1969 in Berkeley California, into a fiercely “Avalon” matriarchal extended family. I have feminism permeating every cell of my being. And your article is in direct alignment with the empowerment of women, the protection of a woman from trauma, the exaltation & reverence of what is mind-blowingly transporting re contact with the Deep Feminine.

    And, in equal measure (listen folks, it meant “equal in value”… as the troubadors raced out of Berkeley to herald the new tidings, they forgot the key word in the phrase…thus, sadly the perverted troubles that have plauged the world since…), your extolling the Sacred Masculine qualities are a manna to my woman soul. An integrity of Self in sheer wholeness & raw wildness. Unsullied & beholden to none in personality, only in obedience to Source, as well as a knight of valor for the sacredness of the Divine Presence that is embodied in a woman.

    I have lived in this world, and have experienced 1001 traumas at the hands of men; I am painfully aware of the sadnesses women have endured in this long messily ridiculous chapter of the maya. With that knowing, I confidently concur that your article gives the remedy, the healing balm.

    Fanning the ember of one’s own buried male or female energies is hardly a trite, parochial, repressive idea, nor a mere superficial Versailles-ish bemusement being presented here. This is PROFOUND cornerstone guidance. It’s an access doorway into one’s own chi-flow, and once there, further ignite the male or female flow, and that chi is rocketblasted. It’s tapping into the motherlode vein of magma. And while that chi of your own male or female courses through you, it not only crackles with a sexuality of beingness (as in, needs no doingness) that is revitalizing in it’s own energetic right, it creates a protective frequency that holds space. As was inferred in the article, the sacred space of potential arising, potentially arising… amidst a backdrop of one’s consciousness, one’s awareness, pulsating Being.

    In this space all reverence for Life is, all stillness, all lushness.

    I thought I was the only one remembering this forgotten piece of the mosaic. I loved seeing your article. And your boldness in throwing it out there, knowing that the waters are filled with prisms of misunderstanding.

    Here’s to the eternally magnetic dance of the masculine & feminine. Black hole holding the cosmos.. (“The best game in town”, says God, with a mischievous smile & a twinkle in his eye…) (I concur! says the Goddess)

    • July 22, 2015 9:00 am

      Thank you for your comment Coretta. Exactly and deeply resonant with what I expressed 🙂 A big cross continental hug to you…..I feel inspired to expand on this….the rainbow revolution DEMANDS it!


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