The death of Empathy…
Today I’d like to touch upon a topic that always fills me with sadness. Sadness, because I recognize the in-evitability of where we are, in this time of great and currently ugly transformation.
The death of empathy.
First, a definition of how I understand the word is in order.
Most people are familiar with Sympathy. Sympathy, or in concert with is a feeling that arises from the mind (sounds strange, but it’s true). Sympathetic vibration is like bringing a tuning fork close to an appropriately tensed string. The string picks up the tuning fork’s vibrational energy and begins to vibrate in concert. Thus and similarly, sympathy is a mental construct that allows you to vibrate at the same frequency as any other vibrating entity and come to it’s frequency. If you are in misery, sympathy comes and vibrates in concert with your misery. That is where the word commiserate comes from. If you notice the reaction of a crowd to a piece of music or a comic or a tragedy, you see sympathetic vibration in action. In a human being, sympathetic vibration arises from cognitive dissonance, where your own whole fractures to be “with” one who you feel sympathy towards.
Empathy, on the other hand is of the heart. In empathetic vibration, you reach from your heart to the root of what or who calls you, empathetically. Empathy can co-mingle in a way sympathy cannot. To ease someone’s pain, you empathize with them. In sympathy, you merely vibrate with their symptom of it. The mild homophonic connection there is no accident.
And empathy is borne in the feminine. Even in men, it is borne by the feminine side of us. It comes from a depth that the truly feminine is capable of reaching. Empathetic men are those who are unusually in touch with their feminine side or are well balanced in both their aspects.
With the battering of both the masculine and feminine in this mad bonfire of the identities, bringing us, individually and collectively to a strange, un-feeling hermaphroditic state, empathy has been lost.
If you wish to see it this way, you can look around you and see the one’s who look confused by this world around us, shocked by mindless violence, saddened by expressions of our lowest selfs and understand that you are in the presence of an empath. In fact, I can say with a great degree of certainty that the lunatic asylums of the world are filled with empaths.
Who but a true empath, could tune into nature and see wondrous and mystical visions? And be branded crazy by a blind society, suspicious of all but that which can be felt, seen or touched. The scientific mind has no place for empathy. The industrial world is too grinding in it’s dystopian madness for an empath to “bear”.
And all those emotions, born of empathy, like tenderness, kindness, with-ness are lost too as a result. We are indeed descending into machine states. Mechanicalness.
In fact, it is the loss of the empathic place in our selves that is responsible for us to be mute actors in a play that is so illogical and destructive. If the rancher could for a moment “feel” for the cows and pigs he slaughters by the thousands, feeding them their own meat and mountains of factory food, would or rather could he continue in his way? Could the engineer who designs the cars that kill and maim hundreds of thousands of people around the world continue his or her work if they were cognizant (or conscious, from a conscience perspective) of the end result of their labours?
An empathetic bomb designer is a non-starter, eh? Or how about the increasing spate of mothers killing their children?
This is what happens when we go against nature. Our own nature and great nature.
We have been conditioned into believing the lie of Darwin’s hypothesis, the very basis of the capitalistic system that is grinding us into machines. The lie that we are but animals, who must live by an erroneously understood law of the jungle, eat or be eaten, kill of be killed.
Like everything else we have lost, this part of us, this empathetic heart, is alive and well with-in each of us. It is just buried under a calcified, conditioned egregore of patriarchial lies. The lies that teach that men must be aggressive and women sub-servient. Feminism and the modern version of masculinity, both are anti-nature.
We can re-tune our-selves. Our empathetic center needs to be rediscovered, for our individual and collective good. Sympathy is a false emotion. It is a conditioned response. Empathy is spontaneous.
Finding it and giving it the place to un-fold is another of our challenges, for in doing so, we should be ready to appear weak to the eyes of this blind-ed world. We must be ready to be real warriors, the ones that cut with-in first. As Gurdjieff wrote in another context, but very apropos here, Until you can create a gnat, you have no right to take a life.
I hope you see the relevance in our times. It takes many “releasings” to find this empathetic center. You don’t need to dig in. Ever. you cannot. You just release the knots of false or falsely imposed beliefs. Which can be, as I pointed out in the wisdom for warriors series, the hardest battle of all.
Rich rewards await those who do.
With feeling…deeper now….
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