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Wisdom for Warriors…No pain, no growth….

May 10, 2013


These past two months have been months of intense interaction with a wide variety of people. All walks of life.

Where I find magic and where I am left speech-less is always surprising. The simplest are often the deepest and the most cultured the most shallow.  Perhaps a scathing indictment of culture, civilization and education as a whole? I think so.

And as always, the most tangential things make me sit up and take notice.

I find more and more people are able to bear less and less physical pain. People create elaborate fences, both mental and physical to save themselves from pain. Some would say, logical, yes? Why would one want to be in pain, ever?

Well, because every life, begins with pain. Every passage from one womb to the next begins with pain.

The mother, spread un-believably wide by the head of her child, feels pain like no other. As a man, I can only imagine. That pain was designed by the great maker of all things, to push the woman into another stage of her maturity and bond her with her child in a way that only that experience, set up that way, would allow.

Today, with epidurals and vaginal slitting, is it any wonder we live in a dis-connected society, especially modern society? Mothers callously sending their children to be reared by  a pre-school, play-school employee? Latch key kids while she works her 9-5? That disconnect, impossible on the scale we witness it today, is born (!!!) of this fear of pain.

But it goes much deeper than that for all of us. Our lives is a series of progressions from womb to womb. We are constantly living and dying, with every breath some say, progressing through ever greater trials so that we may emerge at last with some understanding. Each step on that ladder of understanding is under-pinned by a rite of passage. That rite is usually the rending, by inner force the womb whose limits we have outgrown.

How long do you think a chick pushes against the shell of it’ s egg, pushing pushing till the day it cracks? What does it take for a butterfly to emerge from it’ s cocoon?

And then, there is the fear of pain and to top that, the fear of fear.

Talk about a double lock on any possibility of growth.

Fearing fear, we wall ourselves into an ever deepening, false cocoon, it’s hardness in direct proportion to our own fear-full-ness.

Hard walls make soft people.

On top of that, we fill our lives with the white noise of distraction and light and other co-dependents…. just so that fear causing elements can be kept at bay.

Fear has only one source, the un-known. So we try to know everything about everything. Or allow white-coat lab-rats to know for us. Some deep-seated belief that if everything is known, there will be no fear again.

What a Sisyphean folly.  The deeper we go, the deeper there is to go.  The farther we peer, the farther we find out there is to peer.

Life, as I have come to understand it, is an un-escapable dance between opposing dualities.

Which brings the other sadness into the mix. If you do not know pain, you cannot know pleasure.  Everything set-up in the same maddening duality we are faced with every-day, every moment. To fully know one, you have to fully know it’s opposite.

Osho said, if you love somebody too much, you have as great hate for them in you. The duality is constantly co-existant.

Embrace pain. Embrace fear. Embrace your-self.

Push outward so you may feel the limits of your current womb. Dive inwards to you may experience the darkness that lies with-in you. The tree of our lives has roots in dark, hidden places.

Who is watering your roots? Where are your roots?

On the journey to get those answers, you will encounter the opposite.  All the opposites of your outward, controlled, caged personage.

As with-out, so with-in. The plunge inwards shatters the outer womb. funny how that works, eh?

Very important now. More than ever perhaps as this chaotic mechanistic world we in-habit readies to unleash a greater round of chaos upon us. We WILL be asked to release, bear pain, collectively as well as individually.

In this dawning of the aquarian age, we are all Syrians, we are all Iraqis, we are all those children being blown to bits by a predator for no reason but for being ( of a different colour, belief system…whatever).

We have lived for the better part of 2,160 years in the fish-mind, the age of Pisces. Dominated by spices….

Now it is time to be the water….

If you do not have that all-encompassing awareness, beware. You are locked into a narrow, ever narrowing womb of deceit and dis-traction. Of fear and worse, the fear of fear.

Dive, dive dive so you can fly.

Such is how it is. 🙂

Satori is gained in equal amounts of pain and pleasure.

In gain-filled pain and pain-edged pleasure…


To know a thing well, know it limits. Only when pushed beyond its tolerances will true nature be seen. Do not depend only on theory if your life is at stake.

Bene Gesserit Commentary

22 Comments leave one →
  1. May 10, 2013 7:18 am

    Hi Vivek,

    I just want to say I enjoy reading your thoughts- thanks for sharing them.

    Some of what you wrote gave me insight to why I love to run. It is because it allows me to listen to my body and feel it and to test my will.

    It also gives me a glimpse of how weak and strong I am. I have this Hill that I run. I hate and love running it. Some days I am weaker and give up before my usual stopping point. But the hill is big and until I can run it all the way to the top without stopping, wherever point I end up giving up because my body is screaming stop, I still always have to keep going.

    I think that technology is amazing but everything is happening so fast and most people do not take the time to think about anything beyond their jobs and how to pay their bills that they are changing without even realizing it. We are constantly working on making things easier, more streamlined, more effective, so we can do more in less time.

    Our culture is all about making things smarter and providing instant gratification. We are evolving and most of us are not taking pause at what this evolution means. Are we advancing in some aspects and deteriorating in others?

    Do we just consume and consume media until we lose all sense of self, individual thought?

    Everything it seems tells us how we should think, feel, act- what we should buy.

    Anyway- sorry for the really long block of text, just wanted to say it is refreshing to read from people who are awake.

    Also I don’t know if it’s just my phone but you don’t have a twitter button for sharing.

    • May 13, 2013 6:37 am

      Aissa, thank fro the considered comment. I used to have the same relationship with running and a hill near where I was studying called the “Duke’s Nose”. I had a real relationship with that peak and the rhymes and rhythms of my muscles in their challenge/duel with each other.

      And we must, all of us, cultivate challengers. Lord knows there are enough of them with-in our own skin, asking to be brought forth, tested, flayed, slayed or embraced.

      And why no twitter button? precisely because this thing we call “sharing” has become too easy, light. Push a a button…

      I trust if if the desire to share moved you enough, a copy paste of the url would be easy. See? 🙂

  2. May 10, 2013 7:55 am


  3. May 10, 2013 9:12 am

    Reading this has been actually therapeutical 🙂

    • May 13, 2013 6:31 am

      Nice to know Sameer, now imagine how therapeutic it would be to do something with it, to face a fear, dive into a little pain….. sweet liberation, I can tell you from experience!

  4. May 10, 2013 2:12 pm

    What a great reflexion on life and learning Vivek. Just yesterday I was reflecting on how motherhood has matured me. Nothing I have experienced is as humbling as bearing a life that is not your own, endure pain to see it live and raise it knowing you have no say, or won’t – on how that life will turn out. There are so many unknowns in life. Our desperate attempts to control our experience are constant sources of pain and fear. It is not easy surrendering to the unknown, but life is bound to surprise us… whether we think we drive or ride. 🙂 Hugs and smiles.

    • May 13, 2013 6:30 am

      Tuttysan, given how long I’ve known you, when and how we met etc…. I would really like to see this new, evolved you. I am sure childbirth was a transformative event for you, child-rearing even more so…. excellent! 🙂

      And yes, trouble is we are always trying to control our out-sides, when really all we can do, barely at that, is control what is with-in.

  5. May 10, 2013 2:34 pm

    Thank you once again Vivek for the thought provoking blogs. I would like to address the butterfly pic by saying it is a beautiful picture.
    I’m not really down with religion because if i was it would condition me and be a sin in commission to envy ………the lucky person who took the pic and got to whiteness that beautiful event of birth which at the same time confirms death
    (how’s that for duality?)
    Can I put a “?” In brackets? That’s punctuation – Reality? Being observant of the appointed time I guess it’s punctuality 😄

    And that double lock on the possibility of growth comment re-minded me of this mo-ment which I love ( )as it also re-minds me of man-y things and man-y ways to man-y outcomes. In the age of aquarius where it is Wo-mans time to shine dark, sorry I’m babbling and free writing now but it’s what you sparked so what sparked you?

    Peace Justice & Unity


    • May 13, 2013 6:28 am

      Brother Justice, I can completely understand not being “down” with religion. It is a control system, first, foremost and primarily.
      And 2Pac, saying it like it is. Those were the forces, core needs, that were used by those who had power over them, to coerce the world into this dystopia, so far removed from the organic of the butterfly, from organic birth, organic, peaceful death, transitions…. all of it…

      I head one of your tracks on soundcloud, cool stuff. 🙂

      • May 14, 2013 2:10 pm

        Thank you so much Vivek. You are certainly something and I’m sure all visitors will agree.

        If any other is reading this I say hi and Nameste.

        I know I appreciate the time Vivek takes to respond so personally to each comment. That is a big thing!!!!

        I hope I can in some way some day repay the energy Nameste

        Inspiring Peace, Justice & Unity

  6. Lenanoid permalink
    May 10, 2013 7:56 pm

    Deep Thoughts! 🙂

  7. Terrance permalink
    May 10, 2013 8:04 pm

    Hello Vivek….multi-dimensional realities reflecting on each other….pain makes us remember that we are alive!…Frank Herbert and his Bene Gesserit of Dune! …..powerful…..onelove

    • May 13, 2013 6:41 am

      Duelling dualities Terrance, but as a musician, you know that all too well, eh? 🙂

      And Dune…. always leaves me speech-less with it’s depth. I feel it was written as a play-book…. every page….a jewel….

  8. dublinmick permalink
    May 10, 2013 11:41 pm

    Hi Terrance, this is the age where the lady aquarius pours out the water picture. The arctic pole is melting down!

  9. May 11, 2013 2:11 am

    Thank you for your words, Vivekji 🙂 Its truly a blessing to know you.

  10. Dublinsmick permalink
    May 26, 2013 3:03 am

    Tactical Nuking Of Syria Possibly For Sinking Israeli Sub
    Posted on May 25, 2013 by Dublinsmick
    Syria News states that On May 2, 2013, a Syrian Navy boat destroyed an Israeli submarine hovering off the Syrian coast at about 150 meters depth. There were Syrian helicopters hovering in the area as well as a German intelligence boat.

    Three days later Syrian was attacked with a bunker buster type missile some believe was nuclear tipped.

  11. May 28, 2014 7:31 am

    No pain, no pain.

    Too many chuckleheads get boners by suffering. It’s masochistic pleasure.

    Self-flagellation, hair-shirts, cilices, etc. all done for kicks while saying kicks are sinful.

    No wonder so many “religious” folks are nuts.

  12. August 9, 2017 11:45 am

    There are many in our world that are becoming tangled and targeted in our government institutions, to afraid to fight. Your words are an inspiration.


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